Just Go, Travel!

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If I ever get to meet my younger self, I will tell her to #Travel.

Go out
Go weird
Go wild
Get thrilled
Get inspired
Get going
Discover the world
Let it change you
Let you change it a bit
Discover yourself
Challenge yourself
Just do it
Be it night
or a day
Just slay
Live in the moment
Get crazy
Get unplanned
Do something amazing
 idiotic
Funny
Reach out to cultures
To people
To species
Experience
Explore
Wander
Create memories
Create happiness
Just travel
And let things take their course
Don’t limit let yourself free
Live re-live re-create
🙂
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Be Strong Against The World!

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When I was 22, I was living away from my family in a city to prepare for IELTS and GRE. Since my classes ran from morning 8 to evening 6, I did not had much time to cook for myself. One evening, I was walking home with my roommate at 8’o clock with packed dinner in my hand when suddenly, a teenage boy, on a bicycle pressed my breast and went away. Well, I wasn’t as calm as I am writing this right now. I was shocked, and so was my friend. For first few minutes, I could not even realize what the hell just happened? I am walking literally parallel to houses where families live, where streets are lit up, where people are evening walking and someone just touched my breast. The very next day, same time, same street, same friend, same packed dinner, and the same guy came, on the same bicycle and touched the same breast and ran. Well, yeah s*** happens. And this time, it chose me!

Watch Video :: Here!

This story taught me one thing::

You either learn to fight for yourself, or accept what happens with you. And I am not the latter type, so I learned to defend myself!

 

Of course, I bring my procrastinating characteristic with me. I did not do anything since that day until last weekend when the FitnessStudio/GymUniFIT in my University offered an intensive Selbsverteidgungkurs für Frauen – self defense (SD) course for females.

This course, yet intensive, was a pretty good kick start in bringing the dark and bitter truth of our society that :: unfortunately, we live in a World or society where we, the people, are not as nice as we are suppose to be or should be, and thus sometimes some of the bad ones amongst us try to harm the others. And of course, when someone’s trying to harm you, you can’t simply let them harm you. Right? You need to protect yourself by standing for yourself, fighting and defending yourself. This is where, SD kicks in.

So here’s a summarized recap of all what I learned from my harassment experience and the SD course.

 

1. What is Self-Defense?

Well, if you ask me, it is about defending myself. Now the question is against what? Then I’d say, against someone attacking me, molesting me, harassing me, or someone trying to intrude into my personal space without my permission or approval.

According to my sources, which is wikipedia of course, it says,

Self-defense (self-defence in many varieties of English) is a countermeasure that involves defending the health and well-being of oneself from harm.

 

2. Why & when do we need SD?

Now unfortunately, we need to protect ourselves and our own private personal zone (physically and mentally) that just belongs to us. Anyone, literally any one trying to do any harm to you or enter that zone, needs to be handled sincerely and extensively.

 

3. How do you SD?

Well,

Rule #1 :: Try to avoid the situation of SD as much as you can. It might sound stupid, but it is like it is. If it is, at all, possible to avoid a situation where you know you might end up in danger or physical/mental harm, avoid the situation. If while walking you get a feeling that someone’s trying to follow you or some particular pathway is dark and doesn’t have many people, just take another way to walk home.

Rule #2 :: Always be alert. In this age of mobile phones and insta,fb,twitter, try not to keep yourself busy by looking at your screen but, be attentive whenever you’re out. Don’t be paranoid of course, but make sure you’re aware of your surroundings.

Rule #3 :: If unfortunately you end up in a situation where you’re attacked or molested, shout! Be loud, and shout or yell as loud as you can. Try to get people’s attention towards you so that they know you’re not in this situation on oyur own will. Some might even come and try to help immediately or the attacker might be shocked from your voice and give up.

Rule #4 :: Don’t panic. I know it is easier said than done, but do not panic. In the incident of any attack/molestation or someone grabbing, try to be calm, collect your strength and focus on how you can get rid of the trap. Use your heel to hit on attackers feet, or attack on genitals or eyes. These areas from forehead till the neck and from the lower waist region until feet are primary areas to attack. If you’re not physically strong enough then try spit, shout and run.

Rule #5 :: Always, inform police. After any incident, no matter what the aftermath is, you’re safe or not, the attacker ran away, etc etc always inform the police, they need to know you were in a situation in a certain area. So at least they’re alerted.

Rule #6 :: Get yourself registered in a SD course or any sort of training art like Martial art of Jiu-Jitsu not because you might end up in a situation where you would have to defend yourself but, because you might help someone else in need.

So, no matter who you are, a girl or a boy, a lady or a man, a kid or a teenager, you gotta stand for yourself. It isn’t enough to have a sit back relax attitude because nothing hasn’t happened to you and it won’t. You never know.

 

It is always good to prepare yourself for the best but it is even more better to be ready for the worst!

He wanted s*x!

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They met each other 3 months ago.

They got married.

He was a virgin, and so was she.

He wanted sex.

BUT, she didn’t want it the very same night.

BUT, it doesn’t matter. She has to give him what he wants. Whenever he wants. Wherever he wants and however he wants.

BUT, this isn’t right. So what? They are now married. It is his right to have sex with his wife.

BUT, she is not feeling well. She is in pain. She also loves him, she also wants to sex with him.

BUT, his demands are all that are important. He is the man. He is the husband. His desires are vital and forever to be fulfilled by her.

BUT, what about her. She is also a human. She married him. She left her family. She is right there from this day on forever for him.

BUT, that doesn’t matter. If he wants to have sex right now, she has to deliver. She has to comply. She can not deny.

BUT, she is not denying. She is just not in a mood.

BUT, she isn’t supposed to have such a mood. Her mood should be kept to herself. Or she should throw it away. She has to do what he demands.

BUT, there ain’t any ‘ifs and buts’…

They met each other 3 months ago.

They got married.

He was a virgin, and so was she.

He wanted sex, and he had it!

A Wish Today for everyDay!

 

I wish, I wish one day I will bring some change in here.
I wish, I wish one day I shall be the change for this place.
I wish, I wish I shall dig out the dirt and clean this heaven and make it the way of was before.
I wish, I wish I shall inculcate the decency from the roots.
I wish, I wish I shall see the smiles and worry free hearts while walking alone.
I wish, I wish I shall extirpate the root cause of these bad happenings happening to my fellow mates.
I wish, I wish I shall bring a new era of womennes.
may be I could only wish,
But, NO, why do I wish… I shall do it,
I shall stand and step up for it, for myself..it shall automatically work for other women as well,
no matter how long the path is, I shall walk and not stop,
I shall hold it and make it happen,
I shall not let my dreams and the dreams of all daughters end,
I shall be the change before my life ends, it’s my life and efforts that for the change I shall lend,
I shall begin myself this struggling endeavour,
and shall do it, starting today, forever and ever!

Invite to be raped!

 

For a group of people with big FAT beliefs in their religious rituals and cultures but a small mindset, for people who are PROUD to belong to their country, for the people who literally DOUBLE-FACED and for the people who WORSHIP Goddesses with one hand and beat female-human beings with other, I have something to say…

It’s been a long time, just sitting and watching videos over and over again,
I decide to do something but then sit quite and think why the hell should I take any pains,

as a matter of fact, I am a woman, YES, I am one, and I am happy to be one,
but if I step out of my house at night for a party that I’m the one who is DUMB,

I am supposed to go to school and come back without having friends,
I MUST always wear long covered dresses no matter whatever are the fashion trends,

I should get up early, cook, shower and look decent whenever I walk out,
I should always keep staring at the ground and never am I allowed to shout,

I should not talk to boys – because it’s like playing with the mud,
the mud will remain lovely but I shall be called a SLUT,

I shall always walk around in the mall or a shopping area with 0 – ZERO attitude,
If I try to wear modern clothes and by mistake someone looks at me I am a PROSTITUTE,

“Red” is the colour I should never use as a lipstick,
because NICE girls use Vaseline or Lip Balm, red colour is for the sluts who want to look Hot CHIC,

If I am overweight I am fat, but I now try to be well-shaped,
but with this body I am not allowed to go out because I INVITE TO BE RAPED..

Whhhaaaaatttttt?
What the hell…..did I just write? actually, all the hell is LITERALLY RIGHT !!

This for that whole bunch of people who think everything I wrote is absolutely correct and that is how it should happen everywhere with girls, I have one simple request, please have guts enough to say, “I am GAY”, because if you are so interested in giving every right, every freedom, every happiness and every enjoyment to a guy then, no matter whatever you say, you probably do not know that you were born GAY !!

To Malala, cc: all of us !

If one shall stand, one could fall,
but together we stand, to help us all,

some cry and sit quiet,
some are strong to burn the light,

you can run away or hide somewhere in the dark with fear inside,
but the one who fights, risks her life and shows the path where things are bright,

who so ever said ‘together we stand divided we fall’,
should have motivated to stand as an individual – first of all,

history says it all, the one who brought the good change was once opposed,
had Beethoven sat idle, there wouldn’t be a wonderful symphony composed,

why closing our eyes when things are already dark,
instead open them wide and find the spark,

your child is safe and happy living a life,
but what about those whose lives are full of strife,

get up, open your eyes and see the holes in this society that you can fill,
we need people with a strong goodwill,

no matter how rich or poor you are, what you will always have is your effort and a voice,
how to use it – is your own choice,

she did it, she proved it that death is not waiting for her, death is far from even a touch,
she too had a chance to just sit at home full of hear, since it was already too much,

if this is not bravery then your emotions have simply dried,
no one shall believe you when you tell them you once cried,

I want all of us to stand up and feel the need,
we can help build this world better and let no bad ever impede,

facing the darker side of her life she realized, this is the time to make it shine,
today, tomorrow, day after tomorrow, everything bad shall only increase with time,

we belong to each other, I am your and you are mine,
lets be her and let her be us, this is what is life and love is, the faith in heart and a mind full of trust,

don’t forget, if one shall stand, one could fall,
but together we stand, to help us all,

some cry and some sit quiet,
some are strong to burn the light,

🙂

Bravery – is not defined by gender, nationality or age. It is defined by the spirit and strength!