Sometimes, the time we spend by thinking and thanking of ‘how beautiful it is to be unique and special and how lucky we are to have a life full of wonders‘ is better than thinking of ‘What to do and not to do‘ for others to like us! It is not what you do what makes people like you but, it is what they want us to do and we do that. And from the very moment we begin doing things – against our choice and will – and in the favor and expectation of others we tend to loose ourself. The longer we continue, the more we are lost. The time comes, when for whom we did stuff change their priorities or liking towards others and this is where, we become invisible for them and lost for ourselves.
So, technically, to be visible is to appreciate your being, your presence. Accepting your weaknesses and strengths. Because it is what you are and were supposed to be. Being your own best is far better and satisfying than being someone else. And if you get a life then it is yours to live and to love yourself!
Well, I am from a country where people celebrate many festivals for many reasons spread over a duration of many months. Almost each month we have one or the other festival celebrating or continuing a tradition of beliefs and emotions. Born in brought up in Northern part of India, I am very well acquainted with Makar Sankranti, Baisaakhi, Vasant Panchmi, Holi, Teej, Mahashivraatri, Rakhshabandhan, Karwa Chauth, Id-ul-Fitr, Gangaur, Janmaashthmi, Raam Navmi, Dusshehra, Diwali, Govardhan Puja, Christmas and the list can still be extended…
India is a country with a population of more than a billion and in this billion chunk are thousands of several assorted communities having their own beliefs, traditions and ways to perform the various festivals. As a child, neither I had a precise idea nor I wanted to know the reasons behind many of these festivals. On a very simple note, either my parents told me basic reasons behind each one of them or I got to learn them in school from books or other friends. Gradually, getting acquainted with various different reasons from different community people was pretty interesting as almost every fourth or fifth person celebrating the same festival had his/her own family tradition behind it. But the elemental sense was the same celebration.
Celebration of love, togetherness, hope, forgiving, happiness and believing in being there for each other when needed, emotionally and mentally. People, irrespective of AGE, RACE, CULTURE, TRADITION, RELIGION, COUNTRY and GENDER are same throughout the whole world. I can say this not because I’ve travelled throughout but I’ve met so many that this conclusion can be made and perhaps hold valid. Each one of us desires to be loved, to be cared and caressed, to be pampered, to be forgiven when did a mistake and to be together with our own friends, family and other loved ones around. And I think, this is all what is the core of FESTIVALS.
The more we are growing and walking ahead in our lives the lesser we get the time to communicate with those who once were very close to us. So, this Christmas and the coming new year we can just try our best to celebrate at least one festival together with our parents, siblings, friends and lovers.
‘Life’s path is long, way too long if walked alone, but becomes beautiful and mesmerizing in togetherness like a gemstone.’
I think, we often look for people who are like us, or may be who would be with us forever,
no matter what we look like and no matter what we do,
no matter what has happened,
no matter what we have been through,
because all we want is just a simple hug that makes us feel loving and alive,
a kiss that makes us feel that we still survive,
a sharp look that captures the moment,
a walk that has no end,
a touch that’s divine,
a chat that erases all boundaries of time,
we often look who would be with us forever, no matter what we do,
no matter what we’ve been through!!