It is indeed a matter of fact that humans are species with special strength and capabilities to find out problems, deal with them either finding solutions or creating new problems 😉 in return. Each one of us is living in his/her own problem box, some of which are created abruptly, some lingering on since a long time and some are just mental illusions (because human mind is pretty capable enough to create super fantastic unreal issues). What, in my opinion, common in all of us is the exhaustion caused by these so-called problems. No matter how big or small, new or old, easy or tough these problems are they create some sort of fatigue and panic that sucks out the happiness, peace, patience and most importantly our life from us. And this is where, we seek someone deliberately who can hold or hand and walk us out of the very gloomy dark cloud around us so that we can breathe the freshness of problem-free life.
A very small yet heart-touching incident happened to me this morning. A dear friend of mine was unable to start his car as the battery drained out overnight. The problem wasn’t the car mainly, but his family he had to drive to airport to catch a flight a couple of hours from that moment. He did not expect this and so each one of them were in the same gloomy dark problem panic attack – How to get this damn car started! After spending almost 20-25 minutes a person came for help, my friend got the battery charged and the car was all set to go. Each one of us thanked the guy who helped with his car’s battery and after thanking him each one of us went back to our homes. But this did not end here, in fact I would say, this is where things got started.
It is easy to let things go but when things like these happen, you must not let them go. In this whole 45 minute problem generation scenario, I could see clearly the ability of a human who could so easily cure a problem of another human. This is where I believe the core of Humanity lies. Basically, in my personal opinion, there are 5H’s that each human must possess: Help, Humble, Honor, Hope and Humanity.
Helping attitude is one of the first qualities we must nurture in ourself. To be able to think that we can be some help, is to be able to see through the problems of other people. It is not uncommon to have a helping perspective. We inherently learn to offer a helping hand to our family members, relatives and gradually to the friends we make. We know, we can be of some help to people we know.We know our loved ones will at some point in their lives need our help and so we are there for the same, always.
Humble heart and a helping attitude is a great combi pack in its own. We can have a helping attitude but with an impolite behaviour – and that makes absolute nonsense! We need to be kind and polite in order to lend a helping hand to someone in need. Most importantly, we need to stop our ‘expecting something in return’ behaviour to be on the tip of the iceberg.
Honoring the person with a humble heart and a helping attitude is much more than the above. People who help and are nice but later praise themselves and their act of kindness to others to gain appraisal don’t make any good, neither to themselves nor to the society. Such a behaviour is harming our own integrity and questioning the very own act of kindness performed a while ago. As charity begins from home so does honoring.
Hope is one big thing to talk about. Hope is what make most of us sleep every night and get up next morning to do our best. Hope is what keep us happy even if we are going through the worst days of our lives because we hope the worst to pass and the best to come over again. Creating this sense of hope in someone’s life or even a single day is an achievement to relish, a contentment in its own.
Having created hope extending a helping hand with a humble heart and honoring the dignity of self and the person is what HUMANITY is all about. None of us, trust me with this, lacks any of these H’s in us. We just need to sit down, look deep down inside our own selves, within our heart and soul, and we will find them there. As it is indeed a matter of fact that humans are species with special strength and capabilities to find out problems, deal with deal with them finding the best solutions and a Happy World in return.
Remember, you need not to be special but strong enough to make someone feel special.