It indeed takes a lot of efforts and will power to leave your hometown, country, culture, friends-family and everything else behind and move abroad. Be it a country that has people speaking your language or some completely different language, it is a big task to get used to the things, lifestyle, climate, culture and many things alike. Even if, one gets use to all that, it is a big question of being happy.
Hi people, if you are new to my Blog, I am Nikita and you are reading about my experience living abroad. A couple of years ago, I left India, to come and study abroad in Germany, a land full of beautiful people and landscapes but, at the same time completely strange to me. Since, I came to study here, it was clear that I had to manage a lot of things simultaneously with my studies. Over a period of time I realized that I am not happy and this is affecting my studies and more importantly my own life and people around. So, I decided to ponder over it and make some changes that helped me a lot in re-gaining my happiness and brought me satisfaction. So in this blog, I am going to share a couple of things that I tried and you may try doing to have a happy life abroad, specially if you are a student.
1. Avoid Procrastination
Moving to different country can be very often overwhelming. Specially for students who come abroad to study, since each one of us has our own bag full of dreams, expectations and aspirations. As a result, when the lectures begin and some exercises or tasks are given to be done, we tend to overlook and just enjoy the new environment. It is not wrong to try settle down first and then indulge into academic tasks but, if it consumes too much time then it might backfire during your examination time. You will either be stressed due to not understanding the lecture, since you missed solving the exercises or because you do not have enough points to take the exam. In either of the case, try not to procrastinate the academic tasks, whatsoever. If you are a person and like to enjoy life, then try making a schedule where a certain set of hours is dedicated to your academics. It will not only help you understand the lecture but, help getting a good score and you feel great about starting your new study journey abroad.
2. Stop Over-thinking
I cannot stress it more enough. It is common to over think things, make them complicated and give simple issues more time than they actually should be given. Over-thinking can result to serious problems like stress. Often we tend to over-think things like would I be able to finish my course here? will I get a job or how much would I earn, will I be able to make true friends etc. etc. Sooner or later this stress increases and it becomes difficult to handle. In worst case, it can cause depression. Some of the best ways to avoid falling into an over-thinking circle is to understand what is causing it. For example, if you are stressed because the study pattern of the univ. is different and difficult to what you’re used to, you can talk to some of the native students from that country and ask them how they manage it. You may later sit in a quiet place like library and make a time-table that can help you manage your semester plan. One thing that each of us needs to know is, things take time and doing your best is the best you can do. Moreover, it is though good to think about your job but, in the very first few semesters, it would just add worries and might distract you from your main goal, which is finishing your course with good grades first.
3. Communicate with your old friends
There is nothing better than having a chat with an old friend. No matter how far you go, a simple chat with a close friend relieves all stress and rejuvenates you. When you go abroad, it is possible that a change of place changes your lifestyle thereby, changing your opinions. You might feel like a new person and not like the old you. As a result, you may think your friends would perhaps not like you or hate you since you’ve undergone so much change. However, this is not the case. True friends, no matter what, don’t judge you in fact if they see the change in you, they would appreciate it if it is for the good or rather criticize if it is bad. In either of case, you will get true criticisms which will make you feel grateful to your friends. If you, unfortunately, have not made friends in the new place yet, you know that you still have your friends back home who are always there for you and thus you will be thankful for having them in your life.
4. Do Not Fit In For Others
It is a common tendency to try to fit in. As many say, in Rome – do as the Romans do, is though a good say but, in certain situations it might affect you and your happiness in a negative way. Countries differ from each other in many aspects. If you are like me who comes from a country like India to country like Germany, there are more than dozens of unknown peculiarities that could overwhelm you for the first few months like: language, culture, lifestyle, cuisine etc. It usually takes time to get used to so many things. When you are new, you should not try to fit as soon as possible from the peer pressure of what others must think of you but, give yourself time and let things take their own coarse. The best way is to accept these peculiarities and later with time understand them. If you then like them, you can choose to fit in or just let it be as it is. E.g. if you like German food, you can cook \& eat German meals everyday but, to eat German meals just because you want to fit in in the society, is not the best way for the later-run. Doing this would make you uncomfortable at the beginning and with time you will only feel unhappy and dissatisfied.
5. Eat Junk
All these things that result in unhappy state of mind end up making you consume all the junk food which is, categorically, causing health issues in the later run. It is usual that many of us tend of consume too much pizza, burgers, chips or chocolates when sad, stressed or depressed. Or for some of us the appetite is completely shut down. In the former case, consuming large amount of sugar or fat filled food aids in inhibiting brain in production of stress hormones in the beginning but, with time it can cause you weight-gain and serious health issues. As a consequence, you don’t only get sick but, your studies get affected too. So, the best to avoid all this is to follow simple life rules that do not lead you to this point. However, I know, it is easier said than done. Therefore, in case you feel stressed or unhappy try applying these rules and observe the change. If still things don’t work out, may be you missed on to something that is essential in your life and is influencing you in one way or the other.
”Being happy is a choice you make, by understanding your own self but, this time a bit better than before!”